Divorce

 

Divorce is a formal ending of a marriage. It’s more permanent than a separation and involves a legal process. If you get a divorce, that means the marriage is official crumbled

Poor commitment, financial challenges, and infidelity are some of the leading causes of divorce in the world. But your age and culture may turn it all.

Relationship survival usually requires a blend of open communication, intimacy, and empathy. When any of these characteristics are missing or start to fade, the romantic bond between two people may have no strength. 

Couples may decide to divorce for many reasons. From incompatibility of lifestyles to dishonest behavior. However, researchers have found that some reasons for divorce seem to be more common across cultures and generations.

Major causes of divorce:

The top reasons for divorce have fluctuated over the years and vary by country, often heavily influenced by cultural beliefs and practices.

- Lack of love and intimacy

- Communication problems

- Lack of sympathy, trust, and respect

- Constant arguing or conflict

- Infidelity

- Marrying too young

- Unrealistic expectations about partner or marriage

- Inequality between partners

- Inadequate preparation for marriage

- Domestic violence

- Financial problems

- Conflict about domestic work

- Lack of family support

- Religious differences

- Growing apart because of different interests and activities

- Couples who face challenges in having children also seem to be more likely to divorce if having a larger family is a priority for one or both partners.

15 Amazing Ways To Make Your Husband Love You.

 

1. HEART SURGERY 1

Commit the heart of your husband into the hands of thy Lord.

2. HEART SURGERY 2

Pray aggressively for him,

Tell God to create a room for you in his heart.

Ask that God enables him to love you with all his heart.

3. SELF EXAMINATION 1

Commit yourself into the hand of the Lord, your habits, characters, dressing etc.

4. SELF EXAMINATION 2

Tell God to make you a new woman, with new character, habit, knowledge and wisdom. Tell God to make the wife your husband will always desire to love.

5. BOOST HIS EGO

Tell him” I respect you”, “you are a wise man” often. This will boost his ego and makes him feel at home with you Don’t bruise his ego, boost it. Respect is the number one thing men want from their wives. Don’t fail to respect your husband. (Ephesians 5:33).

6. VERBALISE HAPPINESS

Tell him you are happy to be married to him.

If you tell him you are happy, he will seek to make you happier

7. MAKE HIM YOUR HERO

Make him your champion; your hero.

Receive him totally, let him feel like a superman; exalt him above any other man.

8. KITCHEN THERAPY

Prepare his meal promptly; no delay, no complain. Remember that a hungry man is an angry man; and that the road to the heart of a man is through the kitchen door.

9. LISTEN TO HIM

Listen when he talks. Men generally want their wives to be their students. If you become a good student, he becomes a good teacher.

10. LAY HIM ON THE ALTAR

Pray with him and for him often. Make him your prayer project. A praying wife is a winning wife.

11. FORGIVE HIM

Be a generous forgiver; forgive him when he offends you. This will surprise him and destroy all his ‘defences’ and will make him want to change.

12. PLAY WITH HIM

Sit on his laps when you are together. Don’t fail to remain his lover girl; don’t outgrow playfulness.

13. BOOST HIS SELF -ESTEEM

Tell him he is handsome, brilliant, and wealthy this will boost his self-esteem, makes you his friend and help him love you once again.

14. MAKE HIM A VOCAL LOVE

Say I love you often. he may not ask you the “do you still love me ?”Question (As you often ask him), but he still wants to know.

15. ENCOURAGE HIM

Encourage him when he is challenged, failed or forbid. Be his cheerleader, the chairman of his supporter’s club. Tell him it is well, yes, it is well.

You will not fail in marriage in Jesus name. 

 

It’s Hard to Fake Marriage… for Long!

When a woman has a good husband, it’s written all over her face. A letter from the heart can be read on the face. There are men who never hang out with their wives. I can do without a morning cup of coffee, but not without cuddling my wife. To woo a woman to be your wife is an art, to create a fulfilling marriage with her require maturity.

There’s an old wise African saying, “He who loves, love you with your dirt.” Mature men don’t hunt for younger girls after their wife’s breasts sag for breastfeeding their children. Your love for her should be like the misty rain, coming softly but flooding the river.

In ancient Egypt they warned girls, “If you marry a monkey for its wealth, the money goes and the monkey remains.”

Many are the roads that do not lead to the heart. When a marriage is working, the man longs to go home from work. The woman is excited to see him back. The kids are sad when daddy leaves. He who loves a thing often talks of it. How often does he brag about you? If she calls you brother or by your name, you’re probably no more than her business partner. How have you saved him in your phone?

If you notice a woman who never talks when the husband is around, the man is a bully no matter his public relations prowess. Free souls freely express.

As often said, peace is not the absence of war. Absence of verbal and physical conflicts in marriage is not synonymous to marriage stability. Most relational conflicts are emotional – deep rooted wounds that eventually explode. But you don’t need to act in your marriage. You don’t need to fake it till you make it. You can live a life of peace, joy, respect and love, EVERY DAY. All good will be attacked. The surest defense in your marriage is investing in your marriage. Marriage does not work; marriage is caused to work.

Marriage does not work by chance; marriage works by change... Changing from assumptions and retrogressive attitude and behavior, and embracing love, honor and growth.